Okay, so after a discussion with Tim after I started sobbing AGAIN, followed by an email from Anna where she pointed me to a bulletin board where LOTS of people "failed" at the 3-Day method, I have decided to scrap the damn thing. Hooray! I am totally relieved. When Stella has her next accident, we're going to give her a choice between going back to cloth diapers or panties. That's it. Essentially if she doesn't go in the potty, she has to wear cloth diapers. I think it will work because she's not too crazy about cloth diapers, and if it doesn't work, I at least can let go of my guilt for creating tons of landfill trash AND I still think it will help potty training go faster when Stella is ready because she'll be able to feel the wetness. I think she thought disposables were fantastic because who cares if you're wet with fancy space-age chemicals keeping your wetness from you!
It's amazing how quickly I feel better now!