Monday, February 05, 2007

Feelin' Guilty

This may sound silly, but one of the things I feel guilty for in the mothering department is that I don't really dress Stella up all cute. In fact, I am all about ease of getting on and off. Because our newest development is that Stella screams and cries whenever I'm changing her diaper and goes "Mama, Mama, Mama" like how dare you stop me from my constant motion to get this poo or wetness off my bootie. And because it's cold outside, she mostly wears pants, which are getting increasingly difficult to get on and off over her bulky cloth diapers. And I refuse to go buy 18 month clothing, (or really any clothing for her; I'm cheap like that and her aunts, grandmothers and great-grandmothers keep her fully stocked in that department!) Snaps would make life easier but according to the above family members, they just do not make pants for baby girls with snaps. So because I cannot stand to manhandle Stella into pants, she wears 4 pairs of pants pretty much on constant rotation: two pairs that are elastic and ample enough to go over her butt and two pairs with snaps. My plan is to buy some of those baby legwarmers that you can use instead of tights and then keep her in skirts most of the time. I can't believe I'm saying this, but I almost cannot wait for summer so it's back to onesies and rompers!

I just realized what a boring paragraph that was. I didn't get at the heart of why I feel guilty. I feel guilty for not dressing Stella up because that's what every mother of every little boy dreams of doing. I have a little girl who I can use as my own private dolly and I do not take advantage of it. In fact, my friends who have boys dress their sons WAY cuter than I dress Stella normally. Their little boys always look like little miniature men, they are adorable. Stella is adorable too, but usually her outfit has almost nothing to do with it. Right now she is wearing her Michigan State sweat pants and a onesie because she went jogging with her Daddy this morning, and I'm debating leaving it on her all day because the pants go over her booty easily. But I feel like that's kind of like me going to the grocery store in my sweatsuit, which I would NEVER do. I don't even own a sweatsuit! Lazy, lazy Mama, that's me!


yer mama said...

Dont buy any babylegs! Go to Target and pick out some knee high socks. Chop the feet off. Hell you dont even have to hem them! They have awesome stripey ones.

Marsha said...

I know where you're coming from. I dressed Jackson exclusively in footy sleepers, day and night, till he was almost 10 months old. They had enough room for the cloth diapers and were easy to get into at will. Then when he started pulling up and crawing really well, the knees of them would get really dirty. Only then did I put him in pants, jeans and overalls. And even worse, I will do the same thing with the next baby, girl or boy. So it would probably be best if I have only boys. People don't expect your son to be a baby Gap ad.

jooley_ann said...

Ahhh, I feel the same way! :) Johanna has exactly two outfits that work in this cold weather: a purple hoodie with matching pants, and some groovy pink velour lounge pants with a cute top that says something like "Mommy's Little Angel". But...guh...I dress her in those *constantly*. Her Aunt Ree gave her this adorable ensemble that includes some kind of overall thingees, but it doesn't fit yet...tho' I confess I haven't tried lately. I'm like, "Uhhh, it's the purple pants again today, kiddo."

Plus, she's had all that *hair* since the day she was born...and it's seen nary a bow or hairband. I truly

So, yeah, I can totally relate, and I feel guilty too! But jeesh, I wear the same damn clothes all the time and feel okay about it.... Good enough for baby too?